AUTHOR OF MY BLISS BOOK & THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO TRAUMA SENSITIVE YOGA

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AUTHOR OF MY BLISS BOOK &
THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO TRAUMA SENSITIVE YOGA

Lara Land New Logo 2022
The One Word Resolution

The One Word Resolution

It’s that time of year when many of us are taking a tally of our year and considering what we want to do differently in the next. Some are making sweeping grand resolutions while others make smaller shifts. Regardless of the size of your new year’s resolution, there is something major you should consider…

How you are going to remember it?

One of the biggest struggles folks have in keeping their new year’s resolutions is remembering to do them, especially when holiday time has passed and life gets busy. It’s not that we don’t want to, it’s just that we forget. Other things come up that distract us and we fall on our own patterns and habits which take less effort to think about and maintain.

How do we make our new goals stick long enough that they become habits we can’t forget?

One answer is to make the reminder for that new year’s resolution super simple and impossible to forget. You can do that by using a single word to trigger your memory and your body’s entire response.

Here’s how you do it. Take some quiet time to think about your resolutions. Ask yourself:

  • What is at the core of what you want to create this year?
  • What is the energy of the being you want to inhabit?
  • What is the vibe you want to put out into the world?

Narrow it down to one word. See how that word feels in your body. Try a different one and compare. Find the word that most resonates with your intention. When you do, write it down. You can put it in multiple places such as on your mirror, in your planner, and on your phone. Let it be your mantra and constant reminder of your deepest intention. Stick with it for a while to allow it to work on your subconscious.

I’ve been practicing one-word resolutions for nearly two decades and found it one of my best go-to resolution practices. When Ezra Klein mentioned he works with single-word resolutions on his podcast I was sure it was something that needs to catch on!

What’s your word for this year? Share it with me in the comments!

Curious about more resolution techniques? Check out these blog favorites!

Want to go even deeper? Order your copy of My Bliss Book life-purpose planner which comes with an automated coaching program with over 25 of my top manifestation tricks and tips.

In the Catskills area? Join me for an Intention Setting Workshop Thursday, January 5th at Diamond Hollow Book Store. RSVP at biz@diamondhollowbooks.com

Avoiding Trauma Triggers on the Holidays

Avoiding Trauma Triggers on the Holidays

Holiday time can be particularly triggering for trauma survivors. It can bring up feelings of abandonment, loss, and what if’s. For some, traveling back home or to relatives’ homes is not a positive feeling. It can bring up bad memories, feel phony, or even take us out of control and out of our comfort zones. 

All of this is normal and understandable.

To avoid these feelings, you may want to start a new family or friend-based holiday tradition at your home where you are more in control. If you can’t or prefer to still go see your relatives, here are some things you can do to make that experience less triggering.

Know your boundaries and make a plan in advance.  Decide before you arrive how long you will stay. Make it clear if there are topics or people who are off-limits and make sure everyone agrees to your terms. 

Minimize drinking. Though it may feel comforting for trauma survivors to numb out with drugs or alcohol, this can backfire when important boundaries are disturbed through these substances. Choose calming drinks instead like warm milk (even in some hot chocolate) and tea. 

Check-in. Make a plan to check in with your nervous system. Take note of your heart rate and breath. Know and recognize any signs you are dysregulated and plan in advance for what you will do if they arise. 

Resource Yourself. Come rested and have tools at hand that bring you comfort and increase your capacity to handle triggering family members. This could be a mantra, a squeezy ball, a breathing technique, or anything you know works for you.

The overall lesson for trauma survivors trying to reduce trauma triggers on the holidays and have happy holiday traditions is to plan in advance what you will say and do if triggered and let the family know ahead of time what your boundaries are and agree to them. 

Wishing you all a safe and healthy holiday time!