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The Power of Starting Over: Combing Planner Prompts and Meditation for a Successful Fall

The Power of Starting Over: Combing Planner Prompts and Meditation for a Successful Fall

by | Aug 11, 2024 | COACHING, COMMUNITY, LAND BLOG, LARA LAND, Self Improvement, SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Life is filled with twists and turns, highs and lows, successes and setbacks. Amidst the chaos, it’s easy to feel stuck or overwhelmed. However, there’s a powerful truth that offers solace and hope: we can always start over. This concept, deeply rooted in meditation, provides a transformative path to resilience and renewal.

I’ve spoken at length about how one of the biggest mistakes folks make in their road to self-improvement is waiting till New Years to make or recalibrate goals. 

Embracing the Present Moment

Meditation teaches us the art of being present. This practice cultivates a mindset that allows us to let go of what was and embrace what is, paving the way for a fresh start. Meditation can be as simple as taking five minutes to center yourself and allow your truth to come forward. It is a tool that is incorporated into the My Bliss Book planner to guide you in making each day and cumulatively, your whole life, meaningful. 

The Significance of September

September has always symbolized a time of new beginnings. The start of a new school year brings about a sense of structure, purpose, and a fresh slate. Even though we may not be heading back to school, this time of year can still inspire us to refocus our energies and realign our goals.

Why Having a Planner Matters

  1. Structure and Organization A planner provides the structure we need to organize our tasks, appointments, and goals. By having a clear roadmap, we can manage our time more efficiently and ensure we are making progress in all areas of our lives.
  2. Goal Setting and Tracking Setting goals is crucial for personal and professional growth. A planner allows us to break down our goals into manageable tasks, track our progress, and stay accountable. This process helps in maintaining focus and motivation throughout the year.
  3. Mental Clarity Writing down tasks and goals helps clear mental clutter, reducing stress and anxiety. By having everything laid out in front of us, we can prioritize effectively and approach our days with a calm, clear mind.
  4. Reflection and Growth A planner encourages regular reflection, helping us to learn from our experiences and make necessary adjustments. This continuous cycle of reflection and planning fosters personal growth and self-improvement.

The Unique Benefits of My Bliss Book Planner

The My Bliss Book Planner stands out not just as a planner but as a comprehensive system designed to help you achieve your dreams. Here’s how it can transform your planning and goal-setting experience:

  1. A Hybrid of Life Coach and Planner Part life-coach, part planner, My Bliss Book is crafted to keep you on track and help you crush your goals. It goes beyond traditional planners by integrating coaching elements that guide you through discovering and achieving your Big Bliss Picture.
  2. Evergreen Daily Planner and Online Coaching System This planner is evergreen, meaning it’s designed to be used any time of the year, making it perfect for starting afresh whenever you feel the need. The online coaching system provides continuous support, offering meditations, tips, and personal challenges to keep you motivated and focused.
  3. Backward Planning and Creative Visualization My Bliss Book uses a backward planning approach, helping you visualize your ultimate bliss state and work backward to identify the steps needed to achieve it. This method ensures your goals are aligned with your long-term vision, providing a clear and structured path to success.
  4. Flexibility to Start Over Anytime One of the most empowering features of My Bliss Book is the flexibility it offers. Life is unpredictable, and plans may change. With this planner, you can start over at any time, reassessing your goals and intentions without feeling discouraged.
  5. Inspirational Prompts and Bi-Weekly Support The planner includes inspirational prompts and quotes that encourage self-reflection and daily motivation. Additionally, subscribing to the email list provides bi-weekly emails with meditations, tips, and personal challenges, ensuring you have ongoing support throughout the year.
  6. Focus on First-Year Goals My Bliss Book emphasizes first-year goals that align with your Big Bliss Picture. This focus helps you make meaningful progress towards your long-term vision, breaking it down into achievable steps that keep you motivated and on track.

Harnessing the September Energy

As September approaches, take advantage of the fresh start energy. Use it as an opportunity to revisit your goals, set new intentions, and create a structured plan to achieve them. With the My Bliss Book Planner, you have a powerful tool that not only organizes your tasks but also guides you towards living the life of your dreams. Embrace this time of renewal and let your planner be your partner in making the most of each day.

Remember, each moment is a chance to begin again. Through the practice of meditation, we learn that starting over is not just possible—it’s a natural and beautiful part of the human experience.

Use code STARTAGAIN and receive 20% off My Bliss Book Planner this season! 

Understanding the Role of a Death Doula: The Pioneering Work of Henry Fersko-Weiss

Understanding the Role of a Death Doula: The Pioneering Work of Henry Fersko-Weiss

by | Aug 5, 2024 | COACHING, COMMUNITY, LAND BLOG, LARA LAND, Self Improvement, SELF-IMPROVEMENT

In a society where conversations about death are often avoided, the role of a death doula stands out as a beacon of compassion, support, and guidance for those nearing the end of life. This relatively new but profoundly impactful profession has been significantly shaped by pioneers like Henry Fersko-Weiss, whose dedication and vision have brought dignity and care to the dying process.

What is a Death Doula?

A death doula, also known as an end-of-life doula, is a trained professional who provides holistic support to individuals and their families as they navigate the dying process. Unlike traditional medical personnel, death doulas focus on the emotional, spiritual, and practical aspects of dying, ensuring that the experience is as peaceful and meaningful as possible.

The Role and Responsibilities of a Death Doula

  1. Emotional Support: Death doulas offer a compassionate presence, listening to the fears, hopes, and regrets of the dying person. They provide comfort and reassurance, helping individuals to find peace and acceptance.
  2. Spiritual Guidance: Respecting diverse beliefs and practices, death doulas assist in addressing spiritual concerns, facilitating rituals, and creating a sacred space for the dying process.
  3. Practical Assistance: From helping with advance directives to coordinating care, death doulas manage practical tasks that alleviate the burden on the dying person and their loved ones.
  4. Legacy Projects: They help individuals create meaningful legacies, such as writing letters, recording memories, or making art, which can be cherished by loved ones.
  5. Family Support: Death doulas provide guidance and emotional support to family members, helping them cope with their grief and ensuring they feel included in the process.

Henry Fersko-Weiss: A Visionary in End-of-Life Care

Henry Fersko-Weiss is a pioneering figure in the death doula movement. As a licensed clinical social worker and the co-founder of the International End of Life Doula Association (INELDA), he has dedicated his career to transforming how we approach death and dying.

Key Contributions and Works
  1. Founding INELDA: In 2015, Fersko-Weiss co-founded INELDA, a non-profit organization that provides training, certification, and resources for death doulas. INELDA’s mission is to enhance the end-of-life experience through the compassionate presence and support of trained doulas.
  2. Authoring “Caring for the Dying”: Fersko-Weiss authored “Caring for the Dying: The Doula Approach to a Meaningful Death,” a seminal book that outlines the principles and practices of the death doula profession. The book offers practical advice and personal stories, shedding light on the profound impact doulas can have on the dying process.
  3. Advocacy and Education: Through workshops, seminars, and public speaking, Fersko-Weiss has educated countless individuals and healthcare professionals about the importance of holistic end-of-life care. His advocacy efforts have helped to raise awareness and acceptance of death doulas within the broader community.
  4. Innovative Programs: Fersko-Weiss has developed and implemented innovative end-of-life programs in various healthcare settings, including hospices and hospitals. These programs integrate the doula approach, emphasizing emotional and spiritual care alongside medical treatment.

The Impact of Death Doulas

The presence of a death doula can profoundly impact the dying process, offering a sense of calm, dignity, and meaning. Families often report feeling more supported and less overwhelmed, while individuals facing death can find solace in the presence of someone dedicated to their well-being.

How to Become a Death Doula

For those interested in pursuing this compassionate profession, here are some steps to get started:

  1. Training and Certification: Henry has both inperson and online trainings coming up..
  2. Personal Qualities: Cultivate qualities such as empathy, patience, and active listening. Being present and comfortable with the emotions and experiences of others is crucial.
  3. Continued Education: Engage in ongoing education and self-reflection. The field of end-of-life care is continually evolving, and staying informed about new practices and insights is essential.
  4. Networking and Support: Connect with other death doulas and professionals in the field. Joining organizations like INELDA can provide valuable resources, support, and opportunities for collaboration.

The role of a death doula is a profound calling that brings comfort, peace, and meaning to the dying process. Learn more about becoming or hiring a death doula and Henry Fersko-Weiss’s pioneering work on the latest episode of the Beyond Trauma podcast. Please make sure to write us a review and rating to help us be found in the podcast libraries.

The Healing Power of Therapeutic Journaling: Exploring the Work of Kate Thompson

The Healing Power of Therapeutic Journaling: Exploring the Work of Kate Thompson

by | Jul 31, 2024 | COACHING, COMMUNITY, LAND BLOG, LARA LAND, Self Improvement, SELF-IMPROVEMENT

In the fast-paced and often chaotic world we live in, finding ways to maintain our mental and emotional well-being is more important than ever. One such method that has gained significant attention for its profound impact on mental health is therapeutic journaling. Among the leading voices in this field is Kate Thompson, a prominent figure whose work has helped countless individuals harness the power of writing for healing and self-discovery.

What is Therapeutic Journaling?

Therapeutic journaling is the practice of writing down one’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences with the aim of improving mental health and emotional well-being. Unlike traditional journaling, which may simply record daily events, therapeutic journaling is more focused and intentional, often guided by specific prompts or themes. This practice encourages self-reflection, insight, and emotional expression, which can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

The Benefits of Therapeutic Journaling

  1. Emotional Release: Writing provides a safe outlet for expressing emotions that might be difficult to articulate verbally. It allows individuals to process complex feelings and release pent-up emotions, leading to a sense of relief and catharsis.
  2. Self-Discovery: Through journaling, people can explore their inner world, uncovering patterns in their thoughts and behaviors. This can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and one’s motivations.
  3. Stress Reduction: The act of writing about stressful experiences can help to reduce the impact of stress. It allows individuals to organize their thoughts and gain perspective, which can decrease anxiety and promote relaxation.
  4. Problem Solving: Journaling can aid in problem-solving by helping individuals to clarify their thoughts, consider different perspectives, and brainstorm potential solutions.
  5. Improved Mood: Regular journaling has been associated with improved mood and a reduction in symptoms of depression and anxiety. It can serve as a positive coping mechanism, promoting resilience and emotional stability.

Kate Thompson: A Pioneer in Therapeutic Journaling

Kate Thompson is a renowned psychotherapist, author, and educator who has significantly contributed to the field of therapeutic journaling. Her work emphasizes the therapeutic potential of writing and provides practical guidance for individuals seeking to incorporate journaling into their self-care routines.

Key Contributions and Works
  1. Books and Publications: Thompson has authored several influential books on therapeutic writing, including “Therapeutic Journal Writing: An Introduction for Professionals” and “Writing for Recovery: A Workbook for Healing.” These works offer valuable insights into the principles and practices of therapeutic journaling, making them accessible to both professionals and individuals.
  2. Workshops and Training: Through workshops, training sessions, and speaking engagements, Thompson has educated countless therapists, counselors, and individuals about the benefits of therapeutic journaling. Her interactive approach and practical exercises empower participants to integrate journaling into their therapeutic practices or personal lives.
  3. Research and Advocacy: Thompson has been a vocal advocate for the therapeutic potential of writing. Her research and advocacy efforts have helped to elevate the status of journaling as a legitimate and effective therapeutic tool within the mental health community.
  4. Personal Approach: One of the hallmarks of Thompson’s work is her emphasis on the personal and individualized nature of journaling. She encourages people to find their unique voice and style, making the practice of journaling a deeply personal and meaningful experience.

Getting Started with Therapeutic Journaling

For those interested in exploring therapeutic journaling, here are a few tips to get started:

  1. Set Aside Time: Dedicate a specific time each day or week for journaling. Consistency is key to reaping the benefits of this practice.
  2. Create a Safe Space: Choose a quiet and comfortable place where you can write without distractions.
  3. Use Prompts: If you’re unsure where to start, use prompts to guide your writing. Prompts can be questions, quotes, or themes that inspire reflection and exploration.
  4. Be Honest: Write honestly and without self-censorship. Your journal is a private space where you can express yourself freely.
  5. Reflect and Review: Periodically review your journal entries to gain insights and track your progress. Reflecting on your writing can deepen your understanding and foster personal growth.

Make sure to listen to the latest episode of Beyond Trauma to learn more about Kate and therapeutic journaling. Whether you are a therapist looking to incorporate journaling into your practice or an individual seeking personal growth, the practice of therapeutic journaling offers a path to self-discovery, healing, and transformation.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Setting Healthy Boundaries

by | Jul 7, 2024 | COACHING, COMMUNITY, LAND BLOG, LARA LAND, Self Improvement, SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Setting healthy boundaries is a crucial aspect of maintaining well-being, fostering healthy relationships, and ensuring personal growth.

Boundaries help define our limits and protect our mental, emotional, and physical health. This week I have renowned psychotherapist Dr. Sharon Martin on the Beyond Trauma Podcast to discuss the importance of boundaries and provide practical strategies to establish and maintain them. This blog will delve into her insights and offer actionable steps for setting healthy boundaries in your life.

Understanding Boundaries

Boundaries are guidelines or limits that a person sets to define acceptable behavior from others. They are essential for maintaining a sense of identity and protecting our emotional and physical space. Dr. Sharon Martin emphasizes that boundaries are not just about saying “no” but about creating a space where you can thrive without feeling overwhelmed or taken advantage of.

Types of Boundaries

  1. Physical Boundaries: These pertain to your personal space and physical touch. For instance, you might not feel comfortable with hugs from acquaintances and prefer handshakes instead.
  2. Emotional Boundaries: These involve protecting your emotional well-being by managing your emotional responses and not taking on others’ emotional burdens.
  3. Time Boundaries: These help you manage your time effectively, ensuring you have time for yourself, your work, and your loved ones without feeling overcommitted.
  4. Mental Boundaries: These protect your thoughts and beliefs, allowing you to have your own opinions and not be swayed by others’ undue influence.
  5. Material Boundaries: These relate to your possessions and finances, determining what you are willing to share and what you prefer to keep private.

The Importance of Healthy Boundaries

Dr. Sharon Martin highlights several key reasons why healthy boundaries are vital:

  • Self-Care: Boundaries allow you to take care of yourself by prioritizing your needs and well-being.
  • Healthy Relationships: They promote mutual respect and understanding, reducing conflicts and misunderstandings.
  • Reduced Stress: Clear boundaries prevent you from feeling overwhelmed by reducing unnecessary obligations and emotional burdens.
  • Enhanced Self-Esteem: By valuing your needs and setting limits, you reinforce your self-worth and confidence.

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

Unhealthy boundaries can manifest in various ways, including:

  • Overcommitment: Constantly saying “yes” to requests, even when you don’t have the time or energy.
  • Guilt and Resentment: Feeling guilty for setting limits or resenting others for taking advantage of you.
  • Inability to Say No: Struggling to refuse requests, leading to burnout and frustration.
  • Lack of Privacy: Allowing others to invade your personal space or share your private information without consent.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

Dr. Sharon Martin provides a comprehensive approach to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries:

1. Self-Awareness

Understand your needs, values, and limits. Reflect on past experiences where boundaries were crossed and how it affected you. This awareness is the first step in recognizing where boundaries are needed.

2. Clear Communication

Communicate your boundaries assertively and clearly. Use “I” statements to express your needs without blaming or criticizing others. For example, “I need some quiet time after work to relax.”

3. Consistency

Maintain your boundaries consistently. It’s essential to reinforce your limits even if others push back. Consistency helps others understand and respect your boundaries over time.

4. Practice Self-Care

Prioritize self-care by regularly checking in with yourself and ensuring your needs are met. This might involve setting aside time for hobbies, relaxation, or seeking professional support when needed.

5. Seek Support

Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Discussing your boundaries with trusted individuals can provide encouragement and accountability.

6. Be Prepared for Resistance

Expect some resistance when you start setting boundaries, especially if you’ve previously allowed others to overstep. Stay firm and remind yourself of the importance of maintaining your limits for your well-being.

Setting healthy boundaries is a continuous process that requires self-awareness, clear communication, and persistence. Dr. Sharon Martin’s insights offer valuable guidance on how to establish boundaries that protect your well-being and enhance your relationships. Remember, boundaries are not about shutting people out but about creating a safe space where you can thrive. Start small, be patient with yourself, and recognize that setting boundaries is an act of self-respect and care.

For more in-depth advice and a look into personal relationships, work boundaries, and boundaries with children, take a listen to Beyond Trauma. 

Understanding Anxious Attachment: Causes and Pathways to Secure Attachment

Understanding Anxious Attachment: Causes and Pathways to Secure Attachment

by | Jun 24, 2024 | COACHING, COMMUNITY, LAND BLOG, LARA LAND, Self Improvement, SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Attachment theory, initially developed by John Bowlby, explores the dynamics of long-term relationships between humans.

A significant aspect of this theory is the identification of various attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Among these, anxious attachment is characterized by a deep-seated fear of abandonment and an intense need for closeness and reassurance. This blog delves into the traumas that can lead to anxious attachment and provides practical steps to transition towards a more secure attachment style.

What is Anxious Attachment?

Individuals with an anxious attachment style often experience anxiety about their relationships. They may worry excessively about their partner’s availability and commitment, leading to behaviors such as seeking constant validation, displaying clinginess, or exhibiting emotional volatility. This attachment style often stems from early childhood experiences, particularly the nature of the bond formed with primary caregivers.

Traumas That Can Cause Anxious Attachment

  1. Inconsistent Caregiving: When a child’s caregiver is unpredictable—sometimes attentive and loving, other times neglectful or absent—the child learns that love and security are unreliable. This inconsistency fosters anxiety about the availability and dependability of loved ones.
  2. Emotional Neglect: A child who grows up feeling emotionally neglected, where their feelings and needs are often dismissed or ignored, may develop anxious attachment. They learn to doubt their worth and feel that they must fight for attention and affection.
  3. Parental Over-involvement: Overbearing or overly intrusive parenting can also lead to anxious attachment. Children in these situations may feel suffocated yet uncertain about their own independence, leading to confusion about personal boundaries and a constant need for reassurance.
  4. Traumatic Experiences: Experiences such as parental divorce, loss of a parent, or exposure to family conflict can disrupt a child’s sense of security. These traumatic events can make a child hyper-aware of potential threats to their relationships, leading to anxiety in their attachment style.

Steps to Become More Securely Attached

Transitioning from an anxious attachment style to a more secure attachment involves self-awareness, intentional effort, and often, professional support. Here are steps to guide this journey:

  1. Self-Awareness and Reflection: Understanding your attachment style is the first step. Reflect on your childhood experiences and how they might have shaped your relationship behaviors. Journaling and self-reflection can be powerful tools in uncovering these patterns.
  2. Therapy: Working with a therapist, especially one specialized in attachment theory, can provide valuable insights and coping strategies. Therapy offers a safe space to explore past traumas and their impact on your current relationships.
  3. Developing Emotional Regulation: Learning to manage your emotions can reduce the intensity of your attachment-related anxiety. Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and deep-breathing exercises can help in maintaining emotional balance.
  4. Building Self-Esteem: Cultivating a strong sense of self-worth can diminish the need for external validation. Engage in activities that boost your confidence and reinforce your value independent of others’ opinions.
  5. Effective Communication: Developing healthy communication skills is crucial. Express your needs and feelings openly and constructively with your partner. This helps in creating a secure and understanding relationship environment.
  6. Setting Healthy Boundaries: Learn to establish and respect personal boundaries. This includes recognizing your own limits and honoring the boundaries of others, which fosters mutual respect and trust in relationships.
  7. Choosing Secure Partners: Being in a relationship with someone who has a secure attachment style can have a positive influence on your own attachment behaviors. Secure partners provide consistent emotional support, which can help mitigate anxious tendencies.
  8. Patience and Persistence: Changing deeply ingrained attachment patterns takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge small progress as you work towards a more secure attachment style.

Understanding the roots of anxious attachment and actively working towards a secure attachment style can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. This is what we are talking about today on Beyond Trauma with Anxious Attachment Coach, Chris Rackliffe. 

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Recognizing, Recovering, and Reclaiming Your Power

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Recognizing, Recovering, and Reclaiming Your Power

by | Jun 10, 2024 | COACHING, COMMUNITY, LAND BLOG, LARA LAND, Self Improvement, SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Narcissistic abuse leaves its victims emotionally shattered and mentally scarred.

Whether it’s in personal relationships, familial dynamics, or even professional environments, the effects of narcissistic abuse can be devastating and long-lasting. In this blog, we’ll delve into the trauma of enduring narcissistic abuse, shedding light on its insidious nature, and offering actionable tips for recognizing the signs and embarking on a journey of healing and recovery.

Understanding Narcissistic Abuse:
People with narcissistic personality disorder are characterized by manipulation, exploitation, and a pervasive sense of entitlement. Narcissists are adept at charming their way into people’s lives, only to reveal their true colors over time. They thrive on control and dominance, often resorting to gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional blackmail to maintain their power over their victims.

The Trauma of Enduring Narcissistic Abuse:
Victims of narcissistic abuse often find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation and degradation. The constant gaslighting and invalidation erode their sense of self-worth, leaving them feeling confused, isolated, and powerless. The emotional rollercoaster of highs and lows can be incredibly destabilizing, leading to anxiety, depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in severe cases.

Recognizing the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse:
One of the first steps in breaking free from narcissistic abuse is recognizing the signs. Some common red flags include:

  1. Excessive Need for Admiration: Narcissists crave constant validation and admiration from others, often fishing for compliments or exaggerating their achievements.
  2. Lack of Empathy: They have a limited capacity for empathy and often disregard the feelings and needs of others.
  3. Manipulative Behavior: Narcissists are skilled manipulators who use charm, guilt-tripping, or intimidation to get what they want.
  4. Sense of Entitlement: They believe they are inherently special and deserving of special treatment, often exploiting others to fulfill their own needs.
  5. Gaslighting: Narcissists distort reality and undermine their victim’s perception of the truth, making them doubt their own sanity.

Reclaiming Your Power: Tips for Recovery:
Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a journey that requires time, patience, and self-compassion. Here are some tips to help you reclaim your power and rebuild your life:

  1. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect yourself from further abuse. Learn to say no and prioritize your own well-being.
  2. Seek Support: Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, or a therapist who can provide validation and guidance.
  3. Practice Self-Care: Take time to nurture yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
  4. Educate Yourself: Learn more about narcissistic personality disorder and the dynamics of abusive relationships. Knowledge is power, and understanding the patterns of abuse can help you break free from them.
  5. Challenge Negative Beliefs: Replace self-doubt and self-blame with self-compassion and self-love. Challenge the negative beliefs instilled by the narcissist and embrace your inherent worthiness.
  6. Focus on Healing: Healing from narcissistic abuse is not a linear process. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to feel and process your emotions without judgment.
  7. Rediscover Yourself: Take this opportunity to rediscover who you are outside of the abusive relationship. Reconnect with your passions, interests, and values, and rebuild your life on your own terms.

This is only the beginning of the signs and healing practices available. Listen to my full interview with narcissistic abuse coach, Adriana Bucci on this week’s Beyond Trauma Podcast for a deeper dive into this important topic.